"You still accepted me after seeing the dark side." - friend
Sunday, May 11, 2014
THE FANATIC FOUR
Hello interwebs! :-)
We're the fanatic four and are here to help you with friendships or bullying.
We post things that might help you if you're having fights with friends, or a victim of a bullying, or whether you're contemplating to bully this kid or not.
We've been posting a few things about friendships and bullying..
but we realized that you don't really know us.
The fanatic four
> Nadia
> Rafi
> Michael
> Jason Putra
We've actually shared our biography down below but it's sort of mixed up! Jason Putra's biography was on a different order, so if you want to know more about us...you can go deeper in our blog and read our amazing posts! It might help you too ;)
We're the fanatic four and are here to help you with friendships or bullying.
We post things that might help you if you're having fights with friends, or a victim of a bullying, or whether you're contemplating to bully this kid or not.
We've been posting a few things about friendships and bullying..
but we realized that you don't really know us.
The fanatic four
> Nadia
> Rafi
> Michael
> Jason Putra
We've actually shared our biography down below but it's sort of mixed up! Jason Putra's biography was on a different order, so if you want to know more about us...you can go deeper in our blog and read our amazing posts! It might help you too ;)
Bullying is awful
Bullying isn't a funny thing. It hurts people. It kills people mentally. It drives people insane.
Did you know that bullying caused so much deaths? Suicides? People just give their life away easily just because of the words they receive everyday, the bruises they get every single day, the titters of every one else laughing at the way h/she dress.
Most teenagers reason to why they bully is: "I wasn't bullying. I was just playing around."
Now see, that's the problem. Most people think that bullying is just for fun. Yes maybe it's for fun to you, but not to the victim. Imagine yourself in that position. Do you really think it's fun for someone to receive your harsh words and actions? Obviously not.
Don't hurt others! Make more friends :)
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VOTD (Verse of the day):
'Love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no commandment greater than these. - Mark 12:31
Friendships
There isn't ONE perfect friendship in this world. Everybody makes mistakes. Friends fight.
That is why there's a term called "reconciling with a friend". It's a way to fix your friendship, to heal the wound, to make things better.
I know some fights could be awful & terrible, sometimes our friends can even hurt us. But before giving up and letting go your friendship, think back again...think carefully...your friends are your friends for a reason. Think through about all the fun and happy memories, the things you both went through and at the end of the day you'll really value your friendship and won't let anything or anyone take away your friendship.
Friends are gifts from God.
Cherish them. You might not meet anyone like them again in the future.
So to whoever is having a fight with their friend...
Don't you want to make things better?
And to keep your friendship for the longest time ever?
Then talk to them...
I hope things go alright!
Thursday, May 8, 2014
How To Deal With Bullying
Bullying is inevitable.
But there is a way to deal with it.
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If someone starts bothering you or bullying you, ignore them.
If ignoring is still not working and what they did is already passing the line, you should tell a teacher or your parents. I know that this is a normal thing to say, but it's true. If you kept the pain inside hidden, and tell it to no one then you would be dying inside.
If nobody is listening to you and simply ignoring you, you talk to God. Talk to Him. The One who knows everything about you and still loves You unconditionally.
One thing to remember: don't seek for revenge.
"Bless those who persecute you."
If you're a victim of bullying...
- Pray
- Ignore the words
- Be strong
But there is a way to deal with it.
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If someone starts bothering you or bullying you, ignore them.
If ignoring is still not working and what they did is already passing the line, you should tell a teacher or your parents. I know that this is a normal thing to say, but it's true. If you kept the pain inside hidden, and tell it to no one then you would be dying inside.
If nobody is listening to you and simply ignoring you, you talk to God. Talk to Him. The One who knows everything about you and still loves You unconditionally.
One thing to remember: don't seek for revenge.
"Bless those who persecute you."
If you're a victim of bullying...
- Pray
- Ignore the words
- Be strong
How Do You Reconcile With Your Friend?
1. Approach your friend
If you feel like you made a mistake or if your friend just suddenly acted differently, approach and talk to them nicely. Make sure that the timing is right; your friend is in a good condition, there's not much school work going on, etcetera.
2. Talk with your friend
Once you approached them and they agree to talk things out with you, start asking and talking. Once your friend is engaged in the conversation, listen out to her thoughts and feelings. Try to understand each other's point of view and if possible, don't explode easily and calm down while you're talking. Speak the truth even if it hurts because it's much better to be hurt with the truth than sugarcoated with a lie.
3. Forgive and forget
After the hard talking, apologize to each other and forget the mistakes. It's the past after all, it's better to forget it and leave it behind than keeping it with you as a grudge.
4. Learn from your mistakes
Problem solved! All you now have to do is learn from your mistakes. Try to be a better person and don't repeat the same mistakes. Be a better person :)
Hope this helps!
Is Reconciling With Your Friend Important?
First of all, do you know what 'reconcile' means?
rec·on·cile
(verb) - to restore friendly relations between.
Now that you know what it means, let's go back to our original topic.
Is it important?
Yes.
But why?
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If you have wronged with a friend or you fought with your closest friend, don't you want to fix the relationship? Put the bandage on the wound to let it heal? I'm sure everyone wants that.
Think about it. They were your friends for a good reason, so why waste the friendship because of a fight, which you both can talk it out? That's why it's important.
Is Bullying Crushing Children or Just Kids Being Kids?
Since this is still a debatable topic, I wouldn't be biased to one side.
Bullying could be both crushing children and just kids being kids. On one side, where kids are teases and mocked until they are crushed is the things we do not want to see.
Let me make a scenario. Let's say, you are making "Yo Mama" jokes with your friend.
He started with, "Yo Mama so fat, she doesn't need the Internet to go worldwide because she is literally worldwide already!"
And you fought back with another joke, "Yo Mama so fat, she have her own gravity!"
It went on and on. Until at one point, you gave him your best Yo Mama joke until he get really pissed off. He actually feel insulted by your joke towards his mother and eventually punches you.
You hit him back and defended yourself.
Now... The question is: Was telling the joke that insulted his mother bullying?
The answer is: NO!
Why? Your friend started first, you fired at him back. You didn't know his level of sensitivity. You didn't if he is going to be angry at you or not. You just gave him your best shot. And, he punched you. You punched him back to defend yourself. Nothing is bullying in that scenario.
The second scenario says as follows...
Imagine you are the tallest and biggest student at school. Everyone were afraid of you because of your physical appearance.
One day, when a new student arrived at your school, the first thing you did was...
"Lunch money on the table. NOW!"
He refused to surrender his allowance and so you went frenzy. You grabbed his collar and lift him up into the air like he was a doll. You gave him a wedgie and checked his pockets for the cash. But, there was nothing in his pocket.
You dropped him to the floor like a sack of flour. Then, you picked up his bag and spill out all its fillings. Books, papers, and pens were all shattered on the floor.
"Oh! But wait! What's this?!" you exclaimed as you found what you were looking for.
A black leather Pierre Cardin wallet with fifty-thousand rupiah was hiding between the wallet pocket. You took it out, put the cash inside your pocket and threw the wallet at the new pupil's face.
"It's payday! Bwahahahaha!" you laughed so loud as you leave the class.
Was that bullying?
I'm pretty sure it was. First, you grabbed a NEW student up in the air. Then, you gave him a wedgie (Ouch!). You threw all his stuff on the floor afterwards. Finally, you took his money.
That new kid probably wished that he had never enrolled for this school on the first place. If taking him down was your objective, well, guess what, you nailed it. But you might nail it at the wrong wall. You will bring a bad name for you school (if you care). You might need to face the principal and the parents of that new dude. You will be notorious. Everyone hates you. You will have no friends. Ever.
Bullying will not only crush others which is your victim. But, will as well crush you in the mere future. So basically, what I'm trying to say is, what comes around, goes around. You destroy other people's life, you are destroying your own.
So, what are you waiting for? Stop bullying already.
Bullying could be both crushing children and just kids being kids. On one side, where kids are teases and mocked until they are crushed is the things we do not want to see.
Let me make a scenario. Let's say, you are making "Yo Mama" jokes with your friend.
He started with, "Yo Mama so fat, she doesn't need the Internet to go worldwide because she is literally worldwide already!"
And you fought back with another joke, "Yo Mama so fat, she have her own gravity!"
It went on and on. Until at one point, you gave him your best Yo Mama joke until he get really pissed off. He actually feel insulted by your joke towards his mother and eventually punches you.
You hit him back and defended yourself.
Now... The question is: Was telling the joke that insulted his mother bullying?
The answer is: NO!
Why? Your friend started first, you fired at him back. You didn't know his level of sensitivity. You didn't if he is going to be angry at you or not. You just gave him your best shot. And, he punched you. You punched him back to defend yourself. Nothing is bullying in that scenario.
The second scenario says as follows...
Imagine you are the tallest and biggest student at school. Everyone were afraid of you because of your physical appearance.
One day, when a new student arrived at your school, the first thing you did was...
"Lunch money on the table. NOW!"
He refused to surrender his allowance and so you went frenzy. You grabbed his collar and lift him up into the air like he was a doll. You gave him a wedgie and checked his pockets for the cash. But, there was nothing in his pocket.
You dropped him to the floor like a sack of flour. Then, you picked up his bag and spill out all its fillings. Books, papers, and pens were all shattered on the floor.
"Oh! But wait! What's this?!" you exclaimed as you found what you were looking for.
A black leather Pierre Cardin wallet with fifty-thousand rupiah was hiding between the wallet pocket. You took it out, put the cash inside your pocket and threw the wallet at the new pupil's face.
"It's payday! Bwahahahaha!" you laughed so loud as you leave the class.
Was that bullying?
I'm pretty sure it was. First, you grabbed a NEW student up in the air. Then, you gave him a wedgie (Ouch!). You threw all his stuff on the floor afterwards. Finally, you took his money.
That new kid probably wished that he had never enrolled for this school on the first place. If taking him down was your objective, well, guess what, you nailed it. But you might nail it at the wrong wall. You will bring a bad name for you school (if you care). You might need to face the principal and the parents of that new dude. You will be notorious. Everyone hates you. You will have no friends. Ever.
Bullying will not only crush others which is your victim. But, will as well crush you in the mere future. So basically, what I'm trying to say is, what comes around, goes around. You destroy other people's life, you are destroying your own.
So, what are you waiting for? Stop bullying already.
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